I was reading some sci fi stories of time travel. I wonder what an older me will advise the now-me. I wonder what I will advise my then-me if I could travel back in time. At this point, I do not wish to change anything about the past because my present is so lovely.
I will probably tell my then-me to save more money, don't splurge on those pretty and "feel-good" spendings that will end up as accumulations of materials in my home, and which "feel-good" factor doesn't last for more than a day at most. I will tell my then-me to try to really understand my parents instead of judging them as always being critical of myself. I will tell my then-me to persevere and that the worst and the best days in life will always be over, but the present is always the most important. I will tell my then-me that in future, I will realise that when I thought I understood and treasure life, I had in fact not understood anything about life, and not deeply felt the need to treasure it until I have my own children. Life is precious because of them. I learn to think deeply before I do because I do not think of only myself now. I think for my husband, my family, my son, my daughter, our future and our destiny together. A mother always put herself and her needs as the lowest priority. Before I become a mother, I glorified the sacrifices of a mother. After I become one, I no longer think in this way. To put my loved ones before myself is not a sacrifice, it is the most natural thing to do. If it is most natural, there is nothing to glorify. As children we accept it and we pass it on to elsewhere in the world, and we do greater things with the love that was given.
Life has a lesson. To be loved and to love. Although each of us learn it through a different way, the essence of love remains the same.
